I'll explain. I've been to see him three times now. No single visit has lasted more than 5 minutes. I think today's visit was about 2 1/2, maybe 3 minutes.
He doesn't say much, he's to the point, and he does nothing extraneous. For instance, my other pregnant visits to a doctor usually started with some vague and casual chitchat, they would use the little wheel thingy to confirm my timing, and then ask me how I was feeling. Then, they'd listen to the baby, watching the clock while timing the heartbeat, and I think it took almost a full minute each time. Generally afterwards they'd say a few more things, or we'd wrap up a conversation, they would tell me what the heartbeat was at and what it means for me, as well as mention that I had good Blood Pressure (which was generally taken before the heartbeat... left that part out) then they'd ask if I had any questions, appearing quite interested, and leave with a couple more casual statements.
Our visit today:
Dr. walks in, asks how I'm feeling. I say good. He takes my BP, I make conversation (I'd heard he was called to a delivery last night) he returns it in a relatively friendly, but disinterested manner without elaborating. As soon as the BP is done he asks me to lie down, and listens to the heartbeat for what seems to be 10-20 seconds, mumbles a number, says "good" and tells me to see him in 4 weeks, and that I should get the form from the secretary to have my blood tests, and that should happen in 3 weeks. Pauses briefly at the door, "Any questions?" Gives me a smile, and leaves.
2, maybe 3 minutes tops.
Why does this make me feel empowered/liberated? I explained it to Phil on our way home from our first appointment, when he was wondering why I didn't want to find another Dr who was more personable or at least more interested in his profession. (First of all, don't get me wrong, this Dr. is a very nice man. He smiles, he answers any question I have, it's just everything is fast fast fast.)
I feel liberated cuz I don't feel that I owe him anything. If he wants me to be induced and I don't want to, I feel like I can say no. He hasn't taken much interest, so I don't have to feel guilty not following his advice... if that makes any sense at all.
Well, whether it does or doesn't, it works for me :)
so, I guess all is good. I gained 3 1/2 or 4 pounds, according to the scale. I'm kinda relieved to see my first weight gain... altho I don't want it to go crazy.
Micah is healthy, and I'll see my dr. (briefly) in 4 weeks time. lol.
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